நான் யார் நான் யார் நீ யார் ?? - Shed your Egos !!

 

As you walk on city roads (becoming increasingly difficult these days!) – you see conflicts – the first word uttered in such mental wars is : - ‘do you know who I am ?” – explicitly advertising their bloated Ego.  Many a times, the problem could be avoided by just side-stepping and moving away.  If you can say sorry with a smile and move away – your day will be pleasant !!

 

This calf is trying its power to move on – instead it could take a step away and continue its journey !! 

Twins Sekhar and Anand, along with their mother Mangalam, witness their father Ramnathan being murdered by Nagappan, an escaped convict who Ramnadhan had testified against. This prompts the family to leave to Madras to pursue a new life. But when Sekhar gets down from the train to fetch some water, it leaves without him. Nagappan arrives and kidnaps Sekhar, who is raised by him as a criminal. Sekhar remains unaware that the same man killed his father.  -  a formula MGR movie !!    Sure you have heard this song !!  

நான் யார் நான் யார் நீ யார்  ~  நாலும் தெரிந்தவர் யார் யார்  ??

 

Ever heard someone say ‘He has a big ego’..?  The ego is that part of you that defines itself as a personality, that considers itself a separate entity from the rest of the world. To make it really simple, your ego is the part of you that you feel is talking when you say “I.”  We all have egos.  Literally meaning “I” in Latin, your ego is the internal sense of self-esteem and pride that helps you feel good about who you are. Its presence and strength are determined by a combination of internal and external factors.   

Typically this is said about someone who is annoyingly loud-mouthed, obnoxious, self-absorbed, immature or belligerent. Fortunately, I have not had people have tell me this about myself, but this ‘big ego’ insult has always fascinated me. Generally we do not hear people describe someone as having a ‘small ego’, or talk about someone having a ‘good ego’.  "Big ego" refers to someone who has an exaggerated and inflated sense of self-importance, believing they are better than others and needing constant validation. This often manifests as being self-absorbed, arrogant, and unwilling to admit fault or accept criticism. While this behavior can stem from genuine beliefs of superiority, it may also be a defense mechanism to mask underlying feelings of insecurity or shame.

 

நான் யார் நான் யார் நீ யார்  !!  நாலும் தெரிந்தவர் யார் யார்

தாய் யார் மகன் யார் தெரியார் ! தந்தை என்பார் அவர் யார் யார்

 

உறவார் பகையார்; உண்மையை உணரார், உனக்கே நீ யாரோ?

வருவார் இருப்பார் போவார் - நிலையாய் வாழ்வார் யார் யாரோ?

உள்ளார் புசிப்பார் இல்லார் பசிப்பார்;  உதவிக்கு யார் யாரோ?

 

திரைப்படம்: குடியிருந்த கோவில் (1968)

இசை: M.S. விசுவநாதன்

பாடலாசிரியர்: புலமைபித்தன்

பாடியவர்: T.M. சௌந்தரராஜன்

 

Kudiyirundha Koyil  starring M. G. Ramachandran, Jayalalithaa,  Rajasree, M. N. Nambiar, Nagesh  and others, directed by K. Shankar was released on 15 March 1968. The film was a box office success, running for more than 100 days in theatres, and became a turning point in MGR's career. For his performance, he won his first Tamil Nadu State Film Award for Best Actor.  It was a remake of China Town, 1962 Hindu romantic comedy thriller   directed and produced by Shakti Samanta. Written by Ranjan Bose and with music by Ravi. It is a black-and-white movie, starring Shammi Kapoor in a double role, as a gangster and his look-alike. Shakila is the leading lady, alongside Helen in a supporting role.  Other than Tamil, it was remade in  Telugu as Bhale Thammudu (1969), starring N. T. Rama Rao.  Prem Nazir 1981 Malayalam movie Theekkali was also loosely based on this movie.  

Shed your egos ! – No point in unnecessary conflicts and trying to prove a point elsewhere.  Move on, keep thyself composed and we design our happy living.

 
Regards – S Sampathkumar
7.11.2025